Good Relation and end Relationships

What Makes a Good Relationship?

When people first experience falling in love, it often starts as attraction. Sexual feelings can also be a part of this attraction. People at this stage might daydream about a crush or a new BF or GF. They may doodle the person's name or think of their special someone while a particular song is playing.

It sure feels like love. But it's not love yet. It hasn't had time to grow into emotional closeness that's needed for love. Because feelings of attraction and sexual interest are new, and they're directed at a person we want a relationship with, it's not surprising we confuse attraction with love. It's all so intense, exciting, and hard to sort out.

The crazy intensity of the passion and attraction phase fades a bit after a while. Like putting all our energy into winning a race, this kind of passion is exhilarating but far too extreme to keep going forever. If a relationship is destined to last, this is where closeness enters the picture. The early passionate intensity may fade, but a deep affectionate attachment takes its place.

Some of the ways people grow close are:

·        Learning to give and receive. A healthy relationship is about both people, not how much one person can get from (or give to) the other.

·        Revealing feelings. A supportive, caring relationship allows people to reveal details about themselves their likes and dislikes, dreams and worries, proud moments, disappointments, fears, and weaknesses.

·        Listening and supporting. When two people care, they offer support when the other person is feeling vulnerable or afraid. They don't put down or insult their partner, even when they disagree.

Giving, receiving, revealing, and supporting is a back-and-forth process: One person shares a detail, then the other person shares something, then the first person feels safe enough to share a little more. In this way, the relationship gradually builds into a place of openness, trust, and support where each partner knows that the other will be there when times are tough. Both feel liked and accepted for who they are.

The passion and attraction the couple felt early on in the relationship isn't lost. It's just different. In healthy, long-term relationships, couples often find that intense passion comes and goes at different times. But the closeness is always there.

Sometimes, though, a couple loses the closeness. For adults, relationships can sometimes turn into what experts call "empty love." This means that the closeness and attraction they once felt is gone, and they stay together only out of commitment. This is not usually a problem for teens, but there are other reasons why relationships.

Why Do Relationships End?

Love is delicate. It needs to be cared for and nurtured if it is to last through time. Just like friendships, relationships can fail if they are not given enough time and attention. This is one reason why some couples might not last perhaps someone is so busy with school, extracurricular, and work that he or she has less time for a relationship. Or maybe a relationship ends when people graduate and go to separate colleges or take different career paths.

For some teens, a couple may grow apart because the things that are important to them change as they mature. Or maybe each person wants different things out of the relationship. Sometimes both people realize the relationship has reached its end; sometimes one person feels this way when the other does not.

Why People fall in Love?

 Love is such a powerful human emotion that experts are constantly studying it. Loving and being loved adds richness to our lives. When people feel close to others they are happier and even healthier. Love helps us feel important, understood, and secure.

But each kind of love has its own distinctive feel. The kind of love we feel for a parent is different from our love for a baby brother or best friend. And the kind of love we feel in romantic relationships is its own unique type of love.

Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence. Teens all over the world notice passionate feelings of attraction. Even in cultures where people are not allowed to act on or express these feelings, they're still there. It's a natural part of growing up to develop romantic feelings and sexual attractions to others. These new feelings can be exciting or even confusing at first.

In my view, these three Factors play Vitol role to be in Love:

1.   Attraction: It is the "chemistry" part of love. It's all about the physical even sexual interest that two people have in each other. Attraction is responsible for the desire we feel to kiss and hold the object of our affection. Attraction is also what's behind the flushed, nervous-but-excited way we feel when that person is near. It’s like a Centripetal Force.

2.   Closeness: It is the bond that develops when we share thoughts and feelings that we don't share with anyone else. When you have this feeling of closeness with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you feel supported, cared for, understood, and accepted for who you are. Trust is a big part of this.

3.   Commitment: It is the promise or decision to stick by the other person through the ups and downs of the relationship.

These three qualities of love can be combined in different ways to make different kinds of relationships. For example, closeness without attraction is the kind of love we feel for best friends. We share secrets and personal stuff with them, we support them, and they stand by us. But we are not romantically interested in them.

Attraction without closeness is more like a crush or infatuation. You're attracted to someone physically but don't know the person well enough yet to feel the closeness that comes from sharing personal experiences and feelings.

Romantic love is when attraction and closeness are combined. Lots of relationships grow out of an initial attraction (a crush or "love at first sight") and develop into closeness. It's also possible for a friendship to move from closeness into attraction as two people realize their relationship is more than "just like" and they have become interested in one another in a romantic way.

For people falling in love for the first time, it can be hard to tell the difference between the intense, new feelings of physical attraction and the deeper closeness that goes with being in love.

The morning walk

The favorite form of exercise of anyone ever asked then the answer you will get is gym, yoga ignoring or say neglecting morning walk. But the burning question is why not morning walk after all it’s the healthiest walk one can ever walk in the  free of cost which not only freshens or stretches you mind but also your soul. It is an energetic mind and body development which creates a sense of pace. Being one of the easiest ways of exercise morning walk has been neglected by the several people which including educated people. We often encounter people spending money for the gym and aerobics making Morning walk one of the most ignored and abandoned form of exercise.

Morning Walk the simplest form of exercise that works as the remedy for the tension if done in the tranquil and serene neighboring like parks or country road. I know that the fact that it sucks to get up early in the morning for your office, school without having to go for the walk too. But if we for once keep our laziness aside and began morning walk every day our body and mind can thank us in million ways. Henry David Thoreau once said that An early morning walk is the blessing for the whole day. And it proves to be really true. Even a leisurely stroll or small but rapid walk in the morning provides you with the natural vigor boost and you end up feeling rejuvenated. One also feels more active and energetic throughout the day. Morning walk can’t be ignored because we can’t forget the fact that physical exercise in the before time morning supplies you greater mental sharpness throughout the day.

“Morning Walk is the Healthy Walk.” There are number of fact to prove this statement. The regular performer of this exercise form will support my statement from their heart. And for others I am here to describe the benefit of Morning walk. And even if this doesn’t motivate you into waking up early for walk, I am unaware about what will.

The first and foremost advantage of walking in the early morning is it provides you with the cardiovascular fitness. The health payback of taking a morning walk everyday is colossal, the most significant one is for your heart. In the today’s world 40 percent of the people are diagnosed of heart disease, and the starting making the small change in your lifestyle by going for morning walk can keep these disease at cove.

The second yet important advantage of Morning Walk is Lessen Tension. While I have already mentioned earlier that morning walk is not only beneficial in the morning but it is also helpful for minds. More than half of World population has lot of stress and morning walk reduces this stress providing an optimistic attitude for the whole day.

The third benefit of the morning walk is it enhances mental power. Morning walk guarantees that you stay attentive all over the day. It not only benefits your body but also your mind by providing greater amount of oxygen as walking progresses blood transmission.

The fourth advantage of Morning Walk is it helps to get rid of Diabetes and Hypertension. In present day to find one diabetic patients in the each home has been common. If one sincerely takes an early walk in morning they can prevent themselves from being diabetic patients. And walking lessens elevated blood pressure by civilizing blood flow in the body. To keep these two diseases away I suggest walk away.

The fifth advantage of Morning walk is it helps in the Weight Loss. In the today’s world of science and technology the world has become a very small place. People can get easily what they want or where they want to reach. Car, telephone, mobile, internet has helped the people in different ways. But same means are creating the overweight or obese in the people. Sop morning walk can be the effective weapon to fight against these diseases.

Therefore Morning walk is the easiest and the cheapest way to keep oneself healthy. Only we need to do is keep our laziness aside and say let’s go for it.

The Power of Love

Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It's not negotiable. The more connected you are, the healthier you will be both physically and emotionally. The less connected you are, the more you are at risk.

It is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don't love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They also are very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love.

There is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. As a result, the depressed often sit around passively waiting for someone to love them. But love doesn't work that way. To get love and keep love you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills. Most of us get our ideas of love from popular culture. We come to believe that love is something that sweeps us off our feet. But the pop-culture ideal of love consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment, which is one reason so many of us are set up to be depressed. It's part of our national vulnerability, like eating junk food, constantly stimulated by images of instant gratification. We think it is love when it's simply distraction and infatuation.

One consequence is that when we hit real love we become upset and disappointed because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal. Some of us get demanding and controlling, wanting someone else to do what we think our ideal of romance should be, without realizing our ideal is misplaced.

It is not only possible but necessary to change one's approach to love to ward off depression. Follow these action strategies to get more of what you want out of life—to love and be loved.

• Recognize the difference between limerance and love. Limerance is the psychological state of deep infatuation. It feels good but rarely lasts. Limerance is that first stage of mad attraction whereby all thehormones are flowing and things feel so right. Limerance lasts, on average, six months. It can progress to love. Love mostly starts out as limerance, but limerance doesn't always evolve into love.
• Know that love is a learned skill, not something that comes from hormones or emotion particularly. Erich Fromm called it "an act of will." If you don't learn the skills of love you virtually guarantee that you will be depressed, not only because you will not be connected enough but because you will have many failure experiences.
• Learn good communication skills. They are a means by which you develop trust and intensify connection. The more you can communicate the less depressed you will be because you will feel known and understood.

There are always core differences between two people, no matter how good or close you are, and if the relationship is going right those differences surface. The issue then is to identify the differences and negotiate them so that they don't distance you or kill the relationship.

You do that by understanding where the other person is coming from, who that person is, and by being able to represent yourself. When the differences are known you must be able to negotiate and compromise on them until you find a common ground that works for both.

• Focus on the other person. Rather than focus on what you are getting and how you are being treated, read your partner's need. What does this person really need for his/her own well-being? This is a very tough skill for people to learn in our narcissistic culture. Of course, you don't lose yourself in the process; you make sure you're also doing enough self-care.
• Help someone else. Depression keeps people so focused on themselves they don't get outside themselves enough to be able to learn to love. The more you can focus on others and learn to respond and meet their needs, the better you are going to do in love.
• Develop the ability to accommodate simultaneous reality. The loved one's reality is as important as your own, and you need to be as aware of it as of your own. What are they really saying, what are they really needing? Depressed people think the only reality is their own depressed reality.
• Actively dispute your internal messages of inadequacy. Sensitivity to rejection is a cardinal feature of depression. As a consequence of low self-esteem, every relationship blip is interpreted far too personally as evidence of inadequacy. Quick to feel rejected by a partner, you then believe it is the treatment you fundamentally deserve. But the rejection really originates in you, and the feelings of inadequacy are the depression speaking.

Recognize that the internal voice is strong but it's not real. Talk back to it. "I'm not really being rejected; this isn't really evidence of inadequacy. I made a mistake." Or "this isn't about me, this is something I just didn't know how to do and now I'll learn." When you re-frame the situation to something more adequate, you can act again in an effective way and you can find and keep the love that you need.

Love and Marriage

“You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.” 

We think this is wonderful advice for those “falling in love.” Too often, two people feel the early signs of a loving relationship only to move too fast and scare away the one they are falling in love with. Or worse yet, they become so enamored with “being in love” that they become blinded to the warning signs. They so desperately want to be in love and be loved that they miss important clues to the real feelings of the one they love. 

In  many interviews over the years with individuals who have had a successful and long-term relationship with somebody, we have repeatedly heard this advice – go slow in the beginning. 

You've heard the old expression, “Rome wasn't built in a day.” One thing for certain – neither was love. It develops over time. It requires patience. It requires self-examination. And it most certainly requires you to run slowly across fields until you find the proper footing, lest you fall down! 

Building confidence in any budding love relationship takes time and commitment. It requires a level of objectivity about what is going on at a level you may have never reached before. People falling in love do not lie to each other, but they often lie to themselves about what is happening to them. They let feelings and emotions get the best of them before they are truly ready to share their heart with another – before they are ready to make the honest and caring commitment required to make love last. 

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Here “is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long
without love, they understand love only as a need. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as
their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and instead
become someone who seeks love. They forget that the
secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to
grow only by giving it away.” 

The message here should be clear – love is a gift you give to someone, and if you are lucky, they give it back in return. But the real lesson here is that you need to step back and make sure that you feel good about giving your love away as a gift. And to do this takes time. It takes reflection. It requires being honest with yourself about what you are feeling and what you are giving away to another human being. Rushing to judgment about matters of such profound importance is never a wise thing to do. Giving love away takes time. Accepting true love takes courage, trust and time. 

Target scholarship

Here we are talking about target scholarship. But let us know what scholarship is? Scholarship is a financial help to student for their current study or for further study. Here student to whom scholarship given must be not capable to handle his educational expenditure or he is poor and wants to study. Scholarship also has various types and the main factor we should know about the donor and the purpose of scholarship. In most of cases the money should not be refunded but some of organization gives the scholar to bright student in the contract to work for their company after their study. This is particularly not called scholarship but can be called as loan. Usually the donors are big financial institution or the charity organization or may be some business tycoons. The types of scholar ship can be discussed below as: 
Merit-based: scholarship is given to the bright student who is good in almost all fields and the donor gives the scholarship to the college rather giving to in the hand of student. 

Need-based: scholarship is given to needy student either he is good or average at the study. The student should fill up the firm and later the needy student is given the scholarship by the donor. 

Student-based: Scholarship is given to student according to race, caste, culture, gender etc. 

Career-specific: Scholarship is given to the student who wants to make career in specific field and position. Now after knowing about the scholarship let us talk about target scholarship. Target is one of the retail store chain of department store of America having many outlets. It was first opened in 1968 in Minnesota. Soon after its opening America found one of the major retail store and today target market has many dedicated and trusting customers. Target started working in various fields like charity, social work and other work that is beneficial for the community or community service. And one of the major field in which target is working is education. 

It started scholarship program to the desiring, needy and excellent student who wants to study and do something for the community making them easy to go to school to get the degree they desire. The scholarship provided by the target ranges from high school to universities. Now talking about the type of scholarship the target provides. It provides annually 2100 scholarship package to the student who have performed well and shown talents and desire to study more. Four scholarship of 10000 dollar are given nationwide each year. Apart from this each target retail store provides scholarship to two candidates around the community who have shown their academic talents and community works. This is done because after the student has completed his study he will do something good and meaningful for the community. To get target scholarship anyone interest should be under following criteria.

 The student should have completed his high school under the age of 24 and should have joined the college or university for his graduation. The student must have GPA of 3.0, and mainly should be the citizen of America. if the criteria is fulfilled the student are given the scholarship so that student can complete their education in any field they like. And also the scholarships are given to African American students and Hispanic student after the tie up with the charity working for the African American and Hispanic students. In 2013 as the tradition of target retail store more than 2100 students were given scholarship. And in the same manner in the scholarship program is set for 2014 and 2015. Interested, needy and deserving student under the above mentioned criteria can apply online. The online application has opened. Just we have to fill up the form and don’t take more than 5 minutes.

 Another category of scholarship provided by target is target stuff scholarship in which the students below age 16 are participated in fun oriented show and win the prize like tablets, gift cards, microwave, gaming bundle, and even the cash prize. And the students have to compete in many categories and the highest vote receiver will be the winner of the target stuff scholarship. The main reason for this scholar ship is to make children motivate towards study by giving the school needed stuff with a fun oriented environment. More of the information about target scholarship can be found in website or we can just visit the target store to know more about it .

My Carrier Goals

Before talking about carrier goals let us know what is carrier goal? There are many types of goal such as personal goal, company goal, and social goal and also it has time duration as one year or may last up to forever. Firstly we can set short term goal to make all the things right and then we can take a leap to get what we want. But we are talking about carrier goal and personal so let us talk about it. It consists of only 2 words but these 2 words play a very vital role and determine what we are going to be in future. Carrier goal are anything done to achieve our future carrier path. It is anything done to make our future carrier in the right direction and to make sure how are we going to live for the rest of our life.
 It should be set according to our capacity, interest and importantly keeping our qualification on our mind. But the goal we set today should be for future and should be achievable. While setting our goal we must think in what thing we are going to focus in future such as money, status, personality. We should not make carrier goal by copying other since our ideas, interest and qualification differs which may crash our goal as well as our future dreams. Carrier goal must be decided by thinking only us in mind. But everybody sets carrier goal keeping money in mind which may be realistic because every person’s desire and want ends on money. We should set the goal in such as way so that we should not have to regret for rest of life by saying I did wrong selection. 
We must be very careful while choosing the carrier goal and before choosing goal we must know at what thing we are good at and keeping the thing in mind we should search about it. To obtain the goal we must set a track from the beginning so that it will be easy to walk on it and achieve what we want. The carrier goal must be possible to achieve if we make our carrier goal that is impossible then we may be called insane. And at last when we can’t achieve the goal we will regret and we have to start from the beginning which is very hard and painful. The carrier goal must be a long term and should have a vision for prosperity and satisfaction. It must be healthy and should be beneficial to other also. Sometime only one option for carrier goal may get failed due to external and internal factor so we always should have set alternative carrier goal and think about it and at last looking at various factor and after doing analysis we can choose the best alternative for us or if we don’t want to chance the goal or the time factor doesn’t allow us to reach that goal we just can modify the goal looking interest and the capacity of ours. For example a management student can set a carrier goal to be a successful manager or a corporate personality or a humanity student can set carrier goal to be a good professor or even a social worker and if they don’t want according to their educational back ground they can do what they want to but it must be possible and is should have interest of their own. Choosing carrier goal is easy job but the main and difficult thing is hard work, patience to achieve what you set and want to be in future. The main determining factor of carrier goal is our commitment and dedication towards it.
 The society also is an important factor that determines goal is society is full of good people who are in good profession then we also want to be like them but if society is full of bad and negative people we often tend to choose bad goal resulting in damage of our life. Avoiding such negative aspect and keeping many of the things in mind while thinking and setting carrier goal as we talked above can make us want we want to be in future. However goal setting and achieving task is difficult but not impossible.