Love is such a powerful human emotion that experts
are constantly studying it. Loving and being loved
adds richness to our lives. When people feel close to others they are happier
and even healthier. Love helps us feel important, understood, and secure.
But each kind of love has its own distinctive
feel. The kind of love we feel for a parent is different from our love for a
baby brother or best friend. And the kind of love we feel in romantic
relationships is its own unique type of love.
Our ability to feel romantic love develops during
adolescence. Teens all over the world notice passionate feelings of attraction.
Even in cultures where people are not allowed to act on or express these
feelings, they're still there. It's a natural part of growing up to develop
romantic feelings and sexual attractions to others. These new feelings can be
exciting or even confusing at first.
In my view, these three Factors play Vitol role
to be in Love:
1. Attraction:
It is the
"chemistry" part of love. It's all about the physical even sexual interest
that two people have in each other. Attraction is responsible for the desire we
feel to kiss and hold the object of our affection. Attraction is also what's
behind the flushed, nervous-but-excited way we feel when that person is near.
It’s like a Centripetal Force.
2. Closeness:
It is the bond that
develops when we share thoughts and feelings that we don't share with anyone
else. When you have this feeling of closeness with your boyfriend or
girlfriend, you feel supported, cared for, understood, and accepted for who you
are. Trust is a big part of this.
3. Commitment:
It is the promise or
decision to stick by the other person through the ups and downs of the
relationship.
These three qualities of love can be combined in different ways to
make different kinds of relationships. For example, closeness without
attraction is the kind of love we feel for best friends. We share secrets and
personal stuff with them, we support them, and they stand by us. But we are not
romantically interested in them.
Attraction without closeness is more like a crush or infatuation.
You're attracted to someone physically but don't know the person well enough
yet to feel the closeness that comes from sharing personal experiences and
feelings.
Romantic love is when attraction and closeness are combined. Lots
of relationships grow out of an initial attraction (a crush or "love at
first sight") and develop into closeness. It's also possible for a
friendship to move from closeness into attraction as two people realize their
relationship is more than "just like" and they have become interested
in one another in a romantic way.
For people falling in love for the first time, it can be hard to
tell the difference between the intense, new feelings of physical attraction
and the deeper closeness that goes with being in love.
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